Happily ever after: Romance, gender and the building blocks of domestic violence
Hayes, Sharon L. (2015) Happily ever after: Romance, gender and the building blocks of domestic violence. Kill Your Darlings, 20, pp. 67-80.
My sister describes the state of something being a psychological or personal 'issue' - such as a trauma, compulsion, phobia, or obsession - as having 'brain spaghetti'. For example, apparently she has spaghetti about me pinning her down as a child and tickling her until she screamed for mercy. She knows this because when her spouse tried to do the same, the experience she had as a child came flooding back as a complex tangle of fears, feelings, and mental images. Notwithstanding the trauma inflicted on a sibling in my youth, the spaghetti metaphor is a simple but useful tool for explaining how complex our experiences are, and I bring it up here because I believe a lot of people have spaghetti about love. So much so, that often love becomes distorted, sometimes to the point of making one completely blind to manipulation and abuse. Part of the blame for 'love spaghetti' can be allotted to media depictions of romance and gender, which helps entrench and maintain our deeply held beliefs about what relationships should look like.
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|Item Type:||Journal Article|
|Additional Information:||This was a commissioned piece and the journal is a literary journal.|
|Keywords:||Domestic violence, Romantic love, Gender|
|Subjects:||Australian and New Zealand Standard Research Classification > STUDIES IN HUMAN SOCIETY (160000) > CRIMINOLOGY (160200) > Criminology not elsewhere classified (160299)|
|Divisions:||Current > Research Centres > Crime & Justice Research Centre
Current > QUT Faculties and Divisions > Faculty of Law
Current > Schools > School of Justice
|Copyright Owner:||Copyright 2015 Kill Your Darlings|
|Deposited On:||17 Dec 2015 02:56|
|Last Modified:||23 Jun 2016 04:57|
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